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06: Trickery

This is a tricky thing. Hence the name of this narrateme: trickery. Your subconscious wants to trick you into going back to your old patterns, and it does this by relying on certain patterns of its own.

First, there’s perfection. You get the idea that if you can’t do it right from the very beginning then you shouldn’t start at all. Or if there’s a chance your ducks aren’t all lined up perfectly straight you shouldn’t pull the trigger.

If you’ve been doing the journaling exercises, then you’ve already helped weaken this particular angle. That’s what the tic-tac-toe/Bingo board is for. Rather than having a long list of items you must do in a particular order (or the appearance of a particular order) that you shouldn’t skip around even if it’s actually easier to do so because you might confuse yourself or miss something, you have a board of tasks to complete in whatever order makes sense just so long as you get them done.

Second, there’s forgetfulness. This is more than just losing your keys. This is about taking the moving parts of your quest for granted.

It’s easy to skip around this framework and say "I know this already." It’s easy to brush off advice from someone wiser than you because you’ve "heard it already." It’s easy to avoid putting in the work because you or someone you know has "done it already."

Forgetfulness. Taking someone or something for granted. Being dismissive of that which is familiar.

Your subconscious will use certain instances of familiarity to misdirect you and send you off course and headed back to your old ways. Because everyone falls back into their old patterns when they aren’t paying attention.

Pay attention.

The answer to both of these tricks is the same. Ask yourself: What can I learn from this?

If you’re waiting for the perfect circumstances to take your next step, can you learn to take chances and be willing to make mistakes?

If you’re ignoring the obvious because it’s obvious, can you make a note of what exactly is obvious so you can compare it to the work you’re doing?

Ooh, journaling exercise! Make two columns on a page with Column A titled “Obvious” and Column B titled “Nuance” and be on the lookout for things you might have otherwise taken for granted. Put what you find in the “Obvious” column, and then re-write it in your own words according to your personal philosophies in the “Nuance” column in order to help tease out a learning experience for your subconscious mind.

Slow down. Pay attention. Learn something.

Anything. Even if you’ve learned it before. Learn it again.

It helps make it stick.

Next Chapter: 07: Complicity