LET GO EMOTIONAL BONDING
“The art of detachment”
JOSE HEAVENA FERNANDO
“To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let compassion, things come and go on their own.” –Jack Kornfield
Chapter 1. Attachment
Chapter 2. Detachment
Chapter 3. Emotional cord cutting
Chapter 4. Emotional freedom technique
Chapter 5. Practice your affirmations
Chapter 6. Healing affirmations
Chapter 7. Healing quotes
In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty...in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.
Bonding through dependence never works, whereas bonding through freedom always does.
Emotion brings in the dimension of bonding or turning in: An experience that touches your heart makes the meaning that much more personal.
Life is a tide; float on it. Go down with it and go up with it, but be detached. Then it is not difficult.
Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be attained only by someone who is detached.
When your desires are strong enough you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.
Jose Heavena Fernando
Have you ever suffered badly after losing/quitting a job you loved? Or after a break-up with your partner? Or maybe after losing a good connection with a very much attached person? Attachment and suffering go hand in hand. What are you most afraid of in life? I asked a friend. Attachment, she answered.
We have come to a point where we rightly recognize attachment as the root
cause of pain. But, as humans letting go of attachment is nearly impossible
as it feels like letting go of life itself.
CHAPTER 1: ATTACHMENT
Holding on to pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over
again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it
so. In some cases, especially when it comes to the past, all you can do is
accept whatever it is you’re holding on to and then let it go. That’s how
everything changes. You have to let go of what is hurting you, even if it
feels almost impossible. Deciding to hold on to the past will hold you back
from creating a strong sense of self — a self that isn’t defined by your past,
but rather by who you want to be. Oddly enough, painful feelings can be
comfortable, especially if they’re all you know.
Some people have trouble letting go of their pain or other unpleasant
emotions about their past because they think those feelings are part of their
identity. In some ways, they may not know who they are without their pain.
This makes it impossible for them to let go.
If there’s one thing we all have in common is that we want to feel happy
and on the other side of that coin, we want to avoid hurting. Yet we
consistently put ourselves in situations that set us up for pain.
We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, things and hold onto them
for a lovable life. We stress about the possibility of losing them when
something seems amiss. Then we melt into grief when something changes -
a lay off or a breakup.
We attach to feelings as if they define us and ironically with not only just
positive ones. If you’ve wallowed in regret or disappointment for years, it
can seem safe and even comforting to suffer.
In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy
in the present.
A moment can’t possibly radiate fully when you’re suffocating it in fear.
When you stop trying to grasp, own and control the world around you, you
give it the freedom to fulfill you without the power to destroy you. That’s
why letting go is so important - letting go is letting happiness in.
Giving a person, a relationship, a dream, a goal – the power to control you
in such a way that without it you cannot imagine your existence can have
But is it supposed to be like this? Are we to spend our lives in attaching
ourselves to mortal things and suffer when we are left without it? This is
where the concept of detached attachment comes into the picture.
What do you mean by the Detached attachment?
Detached Attachment is when you let go of control and allow your
possessions to come and pass. You are not the owner but a caretaker.
Appreciate, while it belongs to you and when the time comes; let go as if it
was never meant for you.
Like in The Bhagavad Gita Krishna tells Arjuna that acting with
detachment means doing the right thing for its own sake, because it needs
to be done, without worrying about success or failure.
Detachment takes practice. You need to work on it day by day to instill it in
CHAPTER 2: DETACHMENT
“ Detachment does not mean not caring. It means caring for yourself first and
letting others take responsibility for their actions without trying to save or punish
My point is very clear to involve yourself in the moment. Live, laugh, love,
enjoy. Do whatever you want, but at this moment. After you are finished
just detach yourself from everything.
Detaching yourself from the world around you will give you immense
strength to hold eternal happiness. Otherwise, you will be in distress
Maintain neutrality in your nature, behavior, and character. Don’t get too
close to someone. Don’t get too emotional about everything. Dwelling in
your past won’t rectify the mistakes you made or if you are cherishing those
golden memories you had once are not going to recreate again. And the
same applied to the future also, peeping into your future and dreaming
about it just a waste of your time. We have only the present, make
maximum use of it.
Be like a lotus to sail in the wave of life
WHAT IS LIFE?
We are all connected to the people in our lives on an emotional and
energetic level, and every time we interact with these people we exchange
energy. These energetic and emotional cords are not restricted by space or
time, meaning you can be connected to someone who is far away, or
someone from your past. It is necessary to have some ties in every
relationship, but some are beneficial while others are destructive.
CHAPTER 3: EMOTIONAL CORD CUTTING
During our everyday interactions with our partners, friends, siblings,
parents, children, and colleagues we exchange energy, and within these
interactions, there are likely to be times where we feel hurt, betrayed,
judged, misunderstood, insulted, etc. Quite often we are not aware of how
much energy we spend on these experiences, which can provoke feelings of
fear, anger, and resentment within us. If we don’t resolve these feelings
then we continue to leak energy and perpetuate these negative patterns.
What is a cord?
When you establish a significant relationship with someone (of any kind),
you form an energetic cord with that person, which contains all the
negative patterns and dynamics of your relationship. You contribute
negative patterns into that cord, and the other person does too.
Those patterns of emotion, thought and behavior circulate in the cord – it
is connected to your aura, so the energies enter your aura continuously and
affect you subconsciously in a variety of ways. Cords don’t just drain your
energy. They send negative patterns back and forth between you both, and
into your aura.
Traumas can circulate in them, leaving you feeling haunted by them (for
want of a better word). They can also cause you to choose relationships and
experiences that you wouldn’t otherwise because they predispose you to act
in a certain way.
What happens when you cut a cord?
When you cut a negative cord, you are cleansing the negative behavioral,
emotional, and mental patterns that circulate between you and the other
person. If the cordee is still alive, then your relationship can improve as a
If the cordee is dead or you are not in contact, then it becomes a lot easier
to put the negative aspects (and thoughts) of that particular relationship
Emotional cords are formed on a subconscious level, and severing them is a
useful way to clear past experiences, get rid of resentments, and stop
repeating old patterns. Cutting the cord does not necessarily sever the
relationship unless that is the intent, rather it puts the relationship back
onto a healthy path.
Cutting cords is useful for:
● Ridding your life of someone that you no longer want in it.
● Enabling yourself to be free and move forwards after a break-up.
● When you wish to maintain the relationship but it has become
● When you are transitioning to a new phase in your life and have
some things to let go of.
Why do we need to cut the cords?
When you have some kind of attachment to another person, an energetic
cord can form between you.
You can have energy cords connecting you to family members, lovers,
friends, exes, coworkers, and even people you’ve met briefly or don’t know
personally at all (think celebrities). People can send you cords and you don’t
even know it!
These energy cords can become a huge drag, particularly when they hold
negative energy. If you have a cord attached to someone you judge, resent
or need to forgive, these cords can bring you down big time.
If there’s someone you’re hung up on or long to see again, like an ex, a
former friend, a person you burned a bridge with, or even a fling you still
obsess over, then you almost certainly have an energetic cord keeping you
tied to them. This attachment can feel like an immense weight and you
don’t even know where it’s coming from!
But here are the relationships that usually have a lot of impact when you
cut a cord to that person:
● Cutting cords to close relatives, such as parents, children or siblings
can make a significant impact on your emotions.
● When you have a cord to someone close to you who has (or has had)
an addiction, it can really help to cut the cord to that relationship.
● Cutting cords to abusers and bullies can be impactful
● Cutting cords to someone you’ve had a difficult break up with can
also be helpful.
● Cutting cords to a current spouse or partner can be helpful too,
especially if you are having difficulties in the relationship.
YOU CAN CUT CORDS WITH PEOPLE YOU LOVE, TOO
The cord-cutting meditation isn’t just for people who are no longer in your
life or who you wish weren’t in your life. In fact, many of these energetic
cords likely lead to people you care for very deeply.
By practicing this meditation you’re not cutting this person out of your life.
You’re simply cutting the energetic cord that transmits negative energy.
You can even cut a cord that’s positive but feels too needy. For instance,
maybe you have an awesome friendship but you know you depend a little
too much on this person. Cut the cord and restore health and ease to the
How the cord-cutting meditation works
For the practice of cord-cutting, you sit comfortably, close your eyes, slow
your breathing, and get into a meditative state. Once you feel a sense of
calmness come over you, you invite in any type of guide you believe in,
whether that’s angels, God, your inner wisdom, or the Universe.
I like to invite Archangel Michael, the protector, a powerful angelic being
who carries a huge golden sword. In my mind’s eye, I invite Michael to cut
that cord for me. You can welcome in Archangel Michael or any other
being or presence who can cut cords on your behalf. Ask him to go down
that list, slicing through those cords with ease.
Say to Michael or whatever presence you invite in: “I ask you to cut these
When you do this, you’ll feel a sense of peace and a great deal of support.
When you practice this meditation regularly, you’ll feel happier and
healthier, like a weight has been lifted.
CHAPTER 4: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE
The Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, is the psychological acupressure technique most highly recommended to optimize your emotional health. Although it is still often overlooked, emotional health is absolutely essential to your physical health and healing — no matter how devoted you are to the proper diet and lifestyle, you will not achieve your body’s ideal healing and preventative powers if emotional barriers stand in your way.
People who use this technique believe tapping the body can create a
balance in your energy system and treat pain. According to its developer,
Gary Craig, a disruption in energy is the cause of all negative emotions and
Though still being researched, EFT tapping has been used to treat people
with anxiety and people with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
How does EFT tapping work?
Similar to acupuncture, EFT focuses on the meridian points — or energy
hot spots — to restore balance to your body’s energy. It’s believed that
restoring this energy balance can relieve symptoms a negative experience
or emotion may have caused.
Based on Chinese medicine, meridian points are thought of as areas of the
body energy flows through. These pathways help balance energy flow to
maintain your health. Any imbalance can influence disease or sickness.
Acupuncture uses needles to apply pressure to these energy points. EFT
uses fingertip tapping to apply pressure.
Proponents say the tapping helps you access your body’s energy and send
signals to the part of the brain that controls stress. They claim that
stimulating the meridian points through EFT tapping can reduce the stress
or negative emotion you feel from your issue, ultimately restoring balance
to your disrupted energy.
EFT tapping in 5 steps
EFT tapping can be divided into five steps. If you have more than one issue
or fear, you can repeat this sequence to address it and reduce or eliminate
the intensity of your negative feeling.
1. Identify the issue
In order for this technique to be effective, you must first identify the issue
or fear you have. This will be your focal point while you’re tapping.
Focusing on only one problem at a time is purported to enhance your
2. Test the initial intensity
After you identify your problem area, you need to set a benchmark level of
intensity. The intensity level is rated on a scale from 0 to 10, with 10 being
the worst or most difficult. The scale assesses the emotional or physical
pain and discomfort you feel from your focal issue.
Establishing a benchmark helps you monitor your progress after
performing a complete EFT sequence. If your initial intensity was 10 prior
to tapping and ended at 5, you’d have accomplished a 50 percent
3. The setup
Prior to tapping, you need to establish a phrase that explains what you’re
trying to address. It must focus on two main goals:
● acknowledging the issues
● accepting yourself despite the problem
The common setup phrase is: “Even though I have this [fear or problem], I
deeply and completely accept myself.”
You can alter this phrase so that it fits your problem, but it must not
address someone else’s. For example, you can’t say, “Even though my dad is
sick, I deeply and completely accept myself.” You have to focus on how the
problem makes you feel in order to relieve the distress it causes. It’s better
to address this situation by saying, “Even though I’m sad my dad is sick, I
deeply and completely accept myself.”
4. EFT tapping sequence
The EFT tapping sequence is the methodic tapping on the ends of nine
There are 12 major meridians that mirror each side of the body and
correspond to an internal organ. However, EFT mainly focuses on these
nine: ● karate chop (KC): small intestine meridian
● top of head (TH): governing vessel
● eyebrow (EB): bladder meridian
● side of the eye (SE): gallbladder meridian
● under the eye (UE): stomach meridian
● under the nose (UN): governing vessel
● chin (Ch): central vessel
● beginning of the collarbone (CB): kidney meridian
● under the arm (UA): spleen meridian
Begin by tapping the karate chop point while simultaneously reciting your
setup phrase three times. Then, tap each following point seven times,
moving down the body in this ascending order:
● side of the eye
● under the eye
● under the nose
● beginning of the collarbone
● under the arm
TH = Top of Head
EB = Eyebrow
SE = Side of the Eye
UE = Under the Eye
UN = Under the Nose
Ch = Chin
CB = Collar Bone
UA = Under the Arm
WR = Wrists
After tapping the underarm point, finish the sequence at the top of the
While tapping the ascending points, recite a reminder phrase to maintain
focus on your problem area. If your setup phrase is, “Even though I’m sad
my dad is sick, I deeply and completely accept myself,” your reminder
phrase can be, “The sadness I feel that my dad is sick.” Recite this phrase at
each tapping point. Repeat this sequence two or three times.
5. Test the final intensity
At the end of your sequence, rate your intensity level on a scale from 0 to
10. Compare your results with your initial intensity level. If you haven’t
reached 0, repeat this process until you do.
Tuning Into Your Problem
Now that you understand how to actually perform the mechanical tapping
and where you need to tap, you will next need to know what to say while
you are tapping.
The traditional EFT phrase uses the following setup:
"Even though I have this _____________,
I deeply and completely accept myself."
You can also substitute this as the second part of the phrase:
"I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
The blank above is filled in with a brief description of the addiction, food
craving, negative emotion or other problem you want to address.
Examples Using the Traditional EFT Phrasing
While these examples represent a range of problems, keep in mind there
really is no limit to the types of issues you can confront with EFT:
"Even though I have this fear of public speaking, I deeply and
completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this headache, I deeply and completely accept
"Even though I have this anger towards my father, I deeply and
completely accept myself."
"Even though I have this war memory, I deeply and completely accept
"Even though I have this stiffness in my neck, I deeply and completely
"Even though I have these nightmares, I deeply and completely accept
"Even though I have this craving for alcohol, I deeply and completely
"Even though I have this fear of snakes, I deeply and completely accept
"Even though I have this depression, I deeply and completely accept
Other EFT Phrase Options
You can also try these other phrase variations. All of these affirmations are
correct because they follow the same general format. That is... they
acknowledge the problem and create self-acceptance despite the
existence of the problem. That is what’s necessary for the affirmation to be
You can use any of them, but I suggest you use the recommended one
above because it is easy to memorize and has a good track record at getting
the job done.
"I accept myself even though I have this_________."
"Even though I have this ____________, I deeply and profoundly accept
"I love and accept myself even though I have this_______________."
Interesting Points About the Affirmation Statements
It doesn’t matter whether you believe the affirmation or not... just say it.
It is better to say it with feeling and emphasis, but saying it routinely will
usually do the job.
It is best to say it out loud, but if you are in a social situation where you
prefer to mutter it under your breath... or do it silently... then go ahead. It
will still likely be effective.
To add to the effectiveness of the affirmation, The Setup also includes the
simultaneous tapping on one of the acupuncture meridian points.
Tuning in is seemingly a very simple process. You merely think about the
problem while applying the tapping. That’s it... at least in theory.
"The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy
Negative emotions come about because you are tuned in to certain
thoughts or circumstances, which in turn, cause your energy system to
Otherwise, you function normally. One’s fear of heights is not present, for
example, while one is reading the comic section of the Sunday newspaper
and therefore not tuned in to the problem.
Tuning in to a problem can be done by simply thinking about it. In fact,
tuning in means thinking about it.
Thinking about the problem will bring about the energy disruptions
involved which then... and only then... can be balanced by applying The
Without tuning in to the problem, thereby creating those energy
disruptions, EFT does nothing.
Putting It All Together First Round of Tapping
Now you will need to tap on each of the points described above while you
are stating the positive affirmation. This will only take a few moments to
● Select an appropriate affirmation
● Carefully "tune in" to your problem by actually trying to hold the
problem in your thought
● State the affirmations in a loud voice with great passion, energy
If you do this while tapping the points described earlier, it is highly likely
you will notice a major decrease in the issue or problem that you were
tapping on. If your problem or issue is resolved completely, you are done
with the tapping.
CHAPTER 5: PRACTICE YOUR AFFIRMATION
More On Your Affirmations
Doing affirmations is one of the best ways to be kind to your mind, every thought you have, every sentence you speak is an affirmation of a sort. It is either positive or negative. However, you can also do specific intentional affirmations. And the beautiful thing about doing affirmations is that you can radically improve the effectiveness with EFT.
You can do this by first creating a definite positive statement that builds you up instead of beats you up. We’re talking about definite positive statements to make or do, something in our lives or to create a specific goal.
You can start this process with positive self-statements. Even if it doesn’t feel true to begin with, you will want to do these statements or affirmations many times a day.
Timing of Your Affirmations
When you wake up, when you go to bed, every time you go to the bathroom you should say them.
It is especially important to tap and say the affirmations before you go to sleep. This is probably the single most important time to do it. I can’t encourage you enough to do the EFT affirmations every night. It is one of the most important principles I can give you. When you tap before you go to bed you will give your subconscious from six to eight hours to work on your affirmations and help create them for you.
If you find prayer a helpful resource like I do, you will want to integrate your prayer into the EFT sequences as I believe that will help dramatically increase the effectiveness of your affirmations.
It took me nearly a year after learning EFT before I got in the habit of tapping before going to bed, but I want you to avoid my mistake and not wait awhile before you start doing this valuable technique. Start tapping each and every night before you go to bed.
This is actually quite simple and inexpensive; all you need is a mirror and some time. You can certainly tap alone or in the dark, but I find it is far more effective to tap while staring at your own eyes, in the mirror. This seems to provide a far deeper connection with your subconscious. It’s almost as if the mirror is reflecting back your energy into you rather than going out into space somewhere.
If you haven’t tried this yet you really need to consider doing this profoundly simple yet powerful technique.
You can begin by looking in the mirror and doing your EFT affirmations and you can tap that in on all the EFT points. Pay careful attention and listen to what you hear, especially focusing on any negative messages that can be blocking your progress.
You may not get any messages initially because you are so used to beating yourself up and you are not used to a kind loving thought, but listen and follow through and learn to trust yourself.
We frequently have a tendency to beat ourselves up for every little thing no matter how small. All of us can use forgiveness on a daily basis and you can use the mirror to help you here also.
You can start by looking into your own eyes and say, "Even though I wasn’t successful or I was angry or impatient or mean or cruel," or whatever problem you need to forgive yourself for then say, "I forgive you, I was only doing the best I could."
I forgive you for holding onto those patterns for too long, I forgive you for not loving yourself.""
And when you say "you," you are looking directly into your own eyes.
You have to try this as it is quite powerful. Remember to always acknowledge the negative thought if it is there, but don’t give it a lot of importance.
Then you will want to use EFT on the negative thought that comes up and create a positive opposite.
The Real Reason Why You Can’t Achieve Your Goal Or Lose Weight
A very common occurrence that will present itself is when you start to tap for a food craving, you will have a memory of an image, person, place or event that the craving reminds you of. When you are doing the tapping sequences, you will want to pay special attention to these usually negative thoughts or images that come up. Carefully listen for any statements that your subconscious is telling you are not right or true for you.
This is writing on your wall and causing a psycho-energetic block, and unless you address that reversal is not going to allow you to progress forward. This is usually the major challenge for you and one of the primary reasons as to why you have been able to successfully implement your goal in the past. Unless you directly address this issue by some means, it invariably will self-sabotage your efforts to achieve your weight loss goal.
Fortunately the solution is quite straightforward with EFT, you simply acknowledge whatever self-critical thoughts, images or feelings come up and then choose to simply love and accept yourself while taping on your acupuncture meridians.
Do this persistently and eventually your system will improve with time. Remember to say your statements with great enthusiasm and all the emotions you can muster. Your subconscious mind will not convert your affirmations into reality unless you can tie the statements in with emotional energy.
Be Persistent With Your Affirmations
When you first say an affirmation, it may not seem to be true. Please remember that affirmations are like planting seeds in the ground. It helps if you think of our mind like a garden in which your thoughts are seeds that you are planting. When you do these affirmations, it is like putting a new seed into the ground.
Remember when you plant a seed in the ground, you only have a little tiny seed, you don’t have a full-grown plant. That little seed needs to germinate. Then it breaks open its little shell and it starts to get nourishment from the earth. Then first the roots come out and then and only then does that first little shoot come out through the ground.
Just like it takes some time to go from seed to a full-grown plant, it takes some time from your first affirmation to the realization of your goal. It doesn’t matter whether you see the results or you don’t see them. You have to trust that it just takes time.
Be Present With Your Affirmations
Be sure to always remember to say your positive statements in the present
tense. Your subconscious mind is very literal and if you ask it to do
something in the future, you may fail to achieve your goals for many long
So many of us commonly default to this by force of habit. It takes quite a bit
of conscious effort to avoid this non-intentional self-defeating trap. So
always avoid saying I will have or I am going to have, which is in the future
Always say your affirmation in the present tense, otherwise you run the
serious risk of delay of you obtaining what you want and you may never get
This is one of the keys to being successful with EFT, and forgiving others is
every bit as important as forgiving ourselves. Not forgiving them does not
harm them in the slightest bit, but it plays havoc with us. Because the
issues are not theirs, they are ours.
People who have problems loving themselves always seem to have
problems learning to forgive others. Non-forgiveness shuts that door. But
when you forgive and when you let go, not only does a huge weight drop off
from you, and the doorway to your own self-love opens up.
When you won’t forgive, when you won’t let go, what you are really doing is
binding yourself to the past and when you are stuck in the past you cannot
live in the present time. And if you cannot live in the present time, how are
you going to create a healthy and exciting future?
And that is the absolutely wonderful and powerful feature of EFT is that it
allows you to effectively forgive someone.
I certainly have noticed this with many people I have worked with. It all
starts with our self-talk. Our self-talk or the way we talk to ourselves
becomes important because it becomes the basis of our spoken word.
It sets up the mental atmosphere that we operate in. This will attract us to
experiences. You see your subconscious is really an electromagnetic
transmitter and receiver. It broadcasts emotions in space and whatever we
broadcast we tend to receive from our environment.
Do EFT About 10 Times Per Day
This will allow you to obtain maximum benefit from the technique.It will
also be enormously helpful if you can do this in front of a mirror, paying
careful attention to looking into your eyes. Your energy will be reflected off
the mirror and add a profound synergism to the EFT tapping.
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE FOR PROSPERITY
To my surprise, when I practiced EFT tapping and set my intentions for
prosperity with gratitude, I’d have amazing life affirming experiences. The
tapping somehow made me feel at peace and unblocked.
For those of you unfamiliar, it starts with acknowledging the problematic
emotion you are feeling (in my case frustration with my financial
experience), stating an affirmation that relates to the issue.
Here’s an example of what I use: ‘I am experiencing financial abundance, I
am in alignment with prosperity, I attract great wealth into my life and my
business, I attract positive uplifting customers to me that increase my
financial worth, I love and attract large amounts of money, I am always in
the right place at the right time to have the best and most prosperous
I do three to four rounds of tapping – pinpointing specific areas on my
As I would perform this daily practice, I could feel the energy shifting in
my body, my attitude becoming more confident and positive, and I learned
it was this shift from within me that directly affected what I was creating in
If I forgot to tap or thought I was feeling good enough some days, I might
revert back to having less than prosperous experiences.
Then I’d stop what I was doing, take five minutes, affirm and tap, and my
experience would shift again.
Tapping Meditation for Financial Success
No matter what the dilemma is in your life—whether illness, grief, pain,
financial distress, excess weight, bad relationships, or if you just want to
be more effective in stating and implementing your goals—Tapping
really can help. The reason Tapping works is because you are shifting
and then releasing energy patterns that no longer serve you.
If you have ever had trouble with your finances, chances are you have
deep-seated, negative beliefs about success, including money. Tapping is
a great way to release unconscious fears around success and money.
CHAPTER 6: HEALING AFFIRMATIONS
Affirmations or positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes. Self-affirmation may also help to mitigate the effects of stress.
Our minds and bodies work together in such a way that any thought or belief we have, whether positive or negative, actually reflects in how we look and feel.
When we have a positive outlook, and we1re aligned with frequencies like happiness, gratitude, love, and joy, we have a higher energy and it resonates through us and everything we do.
AFFIRMATIONS FOR HEALING THE SOUL
I allow myself time and space for my soul to heal.
I am gentle with myself through the healing process.
I believe in my ability to manifest happiness and healing.
I choose to heal.
Everything in my life is working great.
AFFIRMATIONS TO HEAL SADNESS
I accept and do not judge myself for feeling sad.
I see every emotion as guidance to my healing.
I am becoming happier every day.
I know that my feelings do not define my essence.
I have the power to overcome my sadness.
AFFIRMATION FOR LOVE AND HEALING
I am surrounded by people who love me and who I love.
I am worthy of being loved.
I attract people who can help me heal through love.
The love that I have for myself and others is beyond words.
I am open to receive and give love.
AFFIRMATIONS TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART
I am ready to forgive myself or anyone who has caused me emotional pain.
I choose to let go of the past and open my heart for love again.
I believe everything happens for a reason, even though I may not know it at
I am excited to start a new page in my life.
I attract people who accept me and love me for who I am.
I allow love to guide all my relationships.
All things are unfolding as they are supposed to.
In my sadness I create space to heal myself.
AFFIRMATIONS TO HEAL A TRAUMATIC EVENT
I am safe when I’m near other people.
I can be tranquil in every situation.
I practice being at peace when other people are agitated.
By changing my thoughts, I create peace in my world.
Nothing will stand in my way of being at peace.
AFFIRMATIONS TO HEAL SADNESS & DEPRESSION
I am letting go of all negative feelings.
I learn to love myself unconditionally, more and more every day.
How I feel matters, therefore I concentrate on aspects of life that make me
Life wants the best for me and I allow happy events to enter my world.
I am grateful for my negative emotions as they teach me valuable lessons.
AFFIRMATIONS TO HEAL ANGER & RESENTMENT
The past is over and it has no power over me now. I refuse to be a victim
anymore. I claim my power.
I give myself the gift of freedom from the past and move with joy into the
As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others.
Everyone has something to teach me, I raise above the events and see the
I return the basics of life: forgiveness, courage, gratitude, love and humor.
AFFIRMATIONS TO FORGIVE OTHERS
I am ready to be healed so I allow forgiveness to manifest.
I listen to my feelings and I know that my feelings are my friends.
I move beyond forgiveness to understanding, and I have compassion for all.
AFFIRMATIONS TO HEAL PAIN
I release my feelings of pain and replace them with loving kindness for
I let go of my painful past feelings. I recognize the good in life and in me.
I am the master of my world. I release the hurt and move into the future
with joy and enthusiasm.
AFFIRMATIONS FOR PHYSICAL HEALING
My body is getting stronger each day.
My health is improving.
I am in great shape.
My body is healing itself.
I am healed.
CHAPTER 6: HEALING QUOTES
Change, like healing, takes time. ― Veronica Roth
All healing is first a healing of the heart. – Carl Townsend
The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals
it. ― Nicholas Sparks
Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with
compassion. – Buddha
Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming
the things you once thought you couldn’t. – Rikki Rogers
Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a
little to find it. – Tori Amos
No matter what you’re going through, there’s a light at the end of the
tunnel and it may seem hard to get to it but you can do it and just keep
working towards it and you’ll find the positive side of things. – Demi
There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar
means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with. – Harry
Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love
is all there is. – Gary Zukav
Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of
us. ― David Richo
Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of
everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and
becoming who you are. – Rachel Naomi Remen
Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the
trees and the stars. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.
— Max Ehrmann
Listen to God with a broken heart. He is not only the doctor who mends it,
but also the father who wipes away the tears. ― Criss Jami
I believe if you keep your faith, you keep your trust, you keep the right
attitude, if you’re grateful, you’ll see God open up new doors. – Joel Osteen
Of one thing I am certain, the body is not the measure of healing, peace is
the measure. – Phyllis McGinley
Healing is embracing what is most feared; healing is opening what has
been closed, softening what has hardened into obstruction, healing is
learning to trust life. – Jeanne Achterberg
Just like there’s always time for pain, there’s always time for healing. ―
“Everytime you get closer & attached to someone you feel
the joy but while disconnecting from whom you love its a
pain, that’s the humans true emotion”
JOSE HEAVENA FERNANDO
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jose Heavena Fernando worked as a Personal Relationship Manager cum
Digital Marketing Executive at Rhythmic Healing Art Studio.She is an
International Author cum Publisher in Kindle direct publish ,Notion press
and Media 365.She was a Former Biotechnology Lecturer of Lady Doak
college.She is an empathetic person who feels to empower people
struggling with disease/depression.As water is required for proper
functioning of organs and body,in a very similar way, book is to nourish
your soul with positivity.Her purpose is to uplift humanity by penning
down her words with a tint of emotional roller coaster as well ,the ways to
make them feel empowered with more confidence,consciousness and
bringing more awareness to their life.Her books bestows in-depth core
meaning hidden behind each of her words.She believes that words are
powerful to uplift the vibrational phenomena in any human.